Stress: The silent pandemic; you’ve been infected. Stress is that thing that makes your heart race before a job interview, that makes your bodyache even though you’ve sat at a desk all day, that makes you get mad for no apparent reason, that makes you too busy to do anything fun or relaxing. Stress happens because we do not have certainty in ourselves, e.g., trust and confidence. It doesn’t matter what ‘stressor’ is causing it. But trust and confidence in what? Simply 3 things: our boundaries with others, our ability to problem solve & adapt, and our ability to listen to our bodies. So how do you actually DO these things?
Boundaries allow us to fill our cup first so we can then overflow into everyone else’s cup, whether that be in our business, our career, parenting, relationships, etc. Make boundaries, and stick with them for 3 days, and then evaluate what happened- were they too strict? Did you not follow them? Did you actually have some personal time to relax?
To cultivate our ability to problem solve & adapt, we must actively choose which thoughts we want to think (the ultimate proactivity hack). The thoughts that we think determine our feelings, which then determine our actions and results. For example, if you are assigned a new project at work and must collaborate with other departments to complete it, and you think that you are not good at working with others, it is going to be really hard to complete that project. If instead, we adapt to think that we are really good at utilizing the strengths of others, that project will get done much quicker, and with less effort on our part.
Our bodies speak many languages, including sound, touch, taste, but also temperature, ‘gut feelings’, hunger, etc. Your mind already knows how to speak all of these languages, you just have to remember them. Are you tired? Take a break. Are you sad? Reflect. Are you lost? Look inward, there is an entire map waiting for you. When we get good at these skills, even just proficient at them, our stress simply melts away. This is because most of our stress comes up because we ‘Don’t know’ something. We ‘Don’t know’ if we will get the promotion at work when we ask for it. We ‘Don’t know’ if we will be able to get everything done today that we need to. We ‘Don’t know’ if we will sell enough to make our mortgage payment. But these thoughts are called worry, and worry takes up an immense amount of our time. Instead, use the 3 tools above to learn to trust yourself again, to give your body an actual break, so it can come back to work with a fiery passion, and learn to take personal time-even if it is only for 10 minutes locked in the bathroom by yourself.
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Author: Shannon South
Shannon is a stress relief expert and she has a passion to help women all over the world learn to overcome stress to be able to create more time, energy, and enjoyment in every day. She has a background in chemistry, is a #1 best selling author on Amazon, and has special training in memory. Shannon enjoys reading by the ocean and brings her puppy Ruby Tuesday with her everywhere.
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